Woman with cinnamon allergy accuses daughter-in-law of poisoning her despite ignoring her clear warnings against eating her homemade dessert: "It was clear she was not going to listen"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Apr 10, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

If you have a mild food allergy or intolerance, you may find yourself indulging in foods that you're not supposed to eat. No, you will never catch people with severe peanut allergies "cheating" with a spoonful of Jiff, but some allergies just cause some discomfort than anything. For example, I am lactose intolerant, but I can stomach eating cheese about once every two days with zero issue. If I want to indulge more, I know that I will have to face the consequences, and sometimes I deem them worth the extra dairy.

In our story today, a woman with a cinnamon allergy refuses to heed any warnings regarding her daughter in-law's cinnamon cake dessert. Our protagonist, the DIL in question, even made her MIL smaller, personal loaves with no cinnamon so that she wouldn't feel left out, but the stubborn woman insists on going for it anyway. Instead of taking accountability for her actions when her body reacts negatively, she blames our protagonist for bringing a sweet temptation into her home. 

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    AITA for making cinnamon bread for my sisters-in-law when my MIL is allergic to cinnamon

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    1 (F22) have jumped on the sourdough bread train. I now make the bread we eat instead of buying it, and when I make a loaf of bread, I post a picture of it and post it on my story. I've had several people slide up and say they would love a loaf, including my in- laws.
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    Right now, we are home visiting our family. I brought my starter and baking supplies to make loaves for the people who have asked, while staying at my mom's. For my in-laws, I made 3 loaves. The SILS (high school age) wanted a cinnamon swirl loaf, so that's what I made for them. My MIL says she is
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    allergic to cinnamon, so I made her 2 small loaves (regular and a cheddar jalapeño). I baked her loaves first to avoid any cross contamination, and I wrapped the cinnamon loaf and put it in its own container separate from the loaves that would go to MIL. When I dropped them off, I made sure to tell them that one loaf was cinnamon.
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    Today, while we were there, MIL cut herself a slice of the cinnamon bread saying she wanted to taste it. All of us said she really shouldn't since she's allergic to cinnamon. She said she would avoid the cinnamon swirl and just eat the plain bread. After
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    more protest, it was clear that she was not going to listen. She ate it, said it was good, and cut another slice. After a while, nothing happened. My husband and I assumed that maybe she isn't as allergic as she thought and everything was fine. We went back
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    to my mom's house, and an hour later both of our phones started blowing up. MIL says I gave her horrible diarrhea with my "nasty bread", and is now claiming that I tried to poison her by giving them bread that has cinnamon in it.
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    My husband has pressed that I did everything I needed to do to keep the breads separate, and that eating the cinnamon bread was 100% her choice. She, and now my husbands grandma are adamant that I shouldn't have brought cinnamon bread into the house at all and I should've just told my SILs no.
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    I thought bringing it would be fine. I've been there plenty of times when SILS had cinnamon rolls on the stove, or snickerdoodle cookies in a jar. I assumed that she wouldn't even touch the container because as far as I had seen, she didn't touch the other stuff.
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    BoatUnhappy6723 Hey! I have a cinnamon allergy. I always bring my own dessert and would absolutely never expect family or friends to not have what they want because of my allergy. You are absolutely NTA and your mother in law sounds like a whole lot of work.
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    South-Proposal 5691 OP This has been something I've actually said in the past. I'm allergic to raw berries, but in-laws really like berry picking in the summer. They've invited us, and I either go and just carry the buckets, or I
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    don't go at all. I'm not expecting them to choose a different activity, and I always appreciate being invited regardless. But if I went and picked berries, and got a rash, I'd say "I shouldn't have done that" and not "why did you invite me"
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    Suspiciouscupcake23 My MIL is allergic to milk. Yet I'll still see her take a slice of cake at my kid's bday parties "just for a taste". Whatever. She knows the frosting has milk. The rest is on her.
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    lemon_charlie She knew the cinnamon bread contained her allergen, yet she actively insisted on trying it even when everyone else was telling her not to. She went for a second slice! Yet she still thinks the problem is the bread herself and not the woman who was adamant on eating it. Either she was naïve or intending to play the martyr by putting her digestive system on the line.
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    LuckyLittleCharm Exactly. Being allergic doesn't mean everyone else has to live cinnamon-free forever. That's not how allergies work.
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  • Our protagonist did eveything she could to keep her mother-in-law safe! She made her extra loaves without cinnamon, was careful not to cross-contaminate, and warned her MIL over and over before she decided to indulge. 

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    Pyritelle You are obviously NTA, sorry but is your MIL a child? Did she do that to herself for attention? I don't get it.
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    littlebitfunny21 With minor allergies sometimes people don't care. I remember hearing someone talk about eating ice cream on the toilet because they knew it would give them diarrhea but cream. did they want ice
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    My partner has a mild cow's milk allergy and I can't get him to cut out milk. Two of our kids have it and the eldest is now old enough to decide if a mild eczema flair up is worth ice cream.
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    Eating the bread because it's just too enticing and f, some gastric distress is worth it - reasonable. Blaming op- huge AH move.
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  • Even though this was not our protagonist's fault in the slightest, I personally would never make anything with cinnamon in it again for a family event. I just wouldn't want to deal with MIL's drama.

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    clairy115 NTA - you did everything right. It is her own fault for eating it after being told several times that she shouldn't. Also going for seconds is crazy as she would have tasted the cinnamon the first time.
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    South-Proposal5691 OP Not only taste, but the swirl of cinnamon is dark, and the bread it light. It's very visually evident that there is cinnamon in that bread
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    SundewOfDoom OP is absolutely NTA. Someone who chooses to indulge on foods with allergens in them need to accept responsibility for their actions. In this case, you either have a bit of self control and resist temptation or you accept the aftermath of your poor choices.
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    I believe I am allergic to eggs and I occasionally eat eggs. I do not blame the store for selling them or my husband for allowing me to buy and cook them. I accept the fact I'm an idiot and will be throwing up later.
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    PleasantSpace6267 Just dropping in to say my friend is allergic to cinnamon...but turns out there are two different types, Ceylon or Cassia. Most cinnamon is Cassia. A friend told her she should be able to have Ceylon and turns out she can!
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    South-Proposal 5691 OP That's really interesting. I had no idea there were types of cinnamon and not just plain cinnamon lol. I'll have to look into that because now I'm curious of the differences
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    Affectionate March394 She literally chose to eat it right in front of you after you told her (again) that it was cinnamon bread What were you supposed to do, spray her with a squirt bottle, "no MIL, bad MIL!"
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